I read a quote on tumblr today that said "the best kind of friendships are fierce lady friendships where you aggressively believe in each other, defend each other, and think the other deserves the world." And I genuinely don't think I have agreed with anything more.
Fierce women need to stick together, and roll with the punches when they get called anything from the stereotypical "men hating feminists" to just being called a simple "bitch". I don't know what it is that people (both men and women) find so intimidating about a gender standing up and saying "we are united, we are not going to take shit anymore, we are not a minority, and we will kick you in the shins if you try to stop us." Because, in all honesty, this should of happened fucking yonks ago.
I am friends with a lot of feminists, both male and female, and they are simply the most motivated, just people I have ever had the pleasure to be around. They are, in pure form, people who are sick of seeing people using their privileges, whether they be white privilege, male privilege, straight privilege etc. in a negative way. And I think that's fucking glorious.
In a society like ours, in which a rape culture is being battled every day because she was "drunk" or she was married to them, a culture in which the victims get treated like their the ones to blame, I think it's fair enough that we have people who will stand up for not only what they believe in, but the RIGHT way of thinking, and that these people would take punches, even fight to the death for the future generations right to stand up for what they believe in. Like Itch says "integrity is what black eyes were invented for."
I don't know, I'm just sick of living I'm a society where the worst thing a girl can be called is fat, and to make it worse, it is said behind their back by people who are meant to be their fierce defenders. Since when did 'fat' become worse than calling someone callous? Twisted? A horrible person? Narrow minded? Next time you feel yourself sitting there and thinking "what a fat bitch" about a woman who is walking past you, before it comes out like word vomit to validate your own stupid insecurities, have a minute to yourself for think "is it necessary to call this girl something?" "Do I know anything about her?" "Will it make me feel better by saying it?" Chances are, the answers will be no, no and no! (I know this is particularly hard when wanting to bitch about the girl your ex is now with, but believe me, you should just thank your lucky stars she took the gobshite off your hands).
Seriously, the world will be a happier place if women just looked out for each other. This is not about being a feminist, this is about looking at another woman and thinking "you bleed out your fanny just the same as I do, and god bless you for that" instead of "oh my god you are pouring out that dress like a badly stuffed sausage".
I have fallen guilty to calling someone ugly, but it didn't make me feel any prettier, and it makes me sad to see girls falling for the same societal bullshit. Oh so Vicky from Geordie shore put on three pounds while on holiday? So fucking what.
Call me a bitch all you want, bitches get shit done. And I have eternity when I'm dead to keep my bitchy opinions to myself.
Aleshia Skellern - you fabulous fabulous girl.
ReplyDeleteWe'll, thank you very much! X
DeleteAw I loved this! So true, especially the part about being called fat, I was saying in a lecture this time last year about the female body how it's bizarre how being called fat is tantamount to a racist slur these days but call someone a bitch or a slut and nobody blinks an eye!? Society is warped and people do need to stick together, everyone need s network of supporters to cheer them on and encourage success fully and not slyly. x
ReplyDeleteAmen sister! X
DeleteThis is so spot on.
ReplyDeleteThe other day a friend of mine made a comment about someone she didn't know, saying that "she's far too fat for leggings."
And, because I have no filter, like at all, I told her to "stop being a bitch. You're better than that."
What made it worse was that I know that the friend who made the comment is insecure about her own weight, so surely she can empathise with what it feels like to be called fat?
We've all got to stop projecting our own insecurities onto others. Because "calling someone ugly, doesn't make us feel any prettier." X
I admit, I've done it in the past and instantly regretted it. It doesn't make me a better person to say nasty things about someone else, it's normally fuelled by jealousy, and something I am working on. I fully respect you for saying that to your friend though, kudos! X
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