As I sit here, watching grease in a food coma from my tuna salad - which, by the way, was fucking lush - I found myself realising that slut shaming has been going on a lot longer than what I realised.
"There are worst things I can do, than go with a boy, or two" seems pretty relevant in this day and age, when celebrities such as Taylor Swift are getting so much grief for being photographed with a fella. Now, I'm not saying she's not sleeping with them, and I'm not saying she is, the point I'm making is, what the fuck has it got to do with anyone that's not them?
Why do we, as girls, feel the need to validate ourselves by talking about how much of a slag another female is? Is slag even a thing anymore? And by saying this about each other are we giving men the right to call us the same? I remember in high school, a girl lost her virginity when we were in year 9, and dealt with being called every name under the sun and being told she has a biffter*. Which, if she was my daughter, I would of grounded her for life for having sex at that age, but, however, she was none of our daughters. She was just a girl who slept with her boyfriend - but this made her different, and a slag. But by year 11, literally two years later, 730 days, if you were a virgin, you were also weird, and frigid.
Like Alison says in The Breakfast Club "It's kind of a double edged sword isn't it? Well, if you say you haven't, you're a prude. If you say you have you're a slut. It's a trap. You want to but you can't, and when you do you wish you didn't, right?" Which is all well and good when you are still in school, but when you are of the age of 18 and over, is it really a big deal how many people other people are sleeping with? Or if they are in fact, not sleeping with anyone?
I don't know when it became something that should be public knowledge about who is involved in your sex life, but I'm not a fan of it. Although, having never been slut shamed before, I find my words falling on deaf ears. It just seems bizarre. When two consenting adults have sex, wether it be in a relationship, wether it is a one night stand, or wether (and we know my stance on this) you are seeing that person, does it really need an audience of people passing judgement?
Whether it be to the confines of your own bedroom, or in the bog of liquid, do whatever and and whoever you want. Because although this sounds trite, like Dr. Seuss says "those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind." Besides, half of the people judging are just jealous because they aren't getting any anyway.
These people need to grow up, and maybe a little bit of slap and tickle will stop them being so bloody tense about it all.
*Biffter means having a saggy vagina.
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