I'm sorry to whoever this offends but this is definitely not a thing. I'm not being funny, but we, as strong independent women who don't need no man cannot let one day a year affect us or force us to moan into a tub of ice cream. This valentines day will be the first I have spent from the age of eighteen on my own, and I won't even be on my own, I will be clutching a bottle of wine and watching wicked in London with my best friend. And this does not bother me at all, if anything, it makes me happier.
Valentines day, even in a relationship is the stupidest of all Hallmark holidays. It is one day a year people buy stupid stuff (sainsburys are selling a plaque with the recipe for love, pass me the sick bucket) and book stupidly expensive meals. If you feel, in a relationship that you need the validation from this stupid holiday then you need to sling your fella to the curb, because they are not giving you the princess treatment you deserve. This sounds bitter, and almost resentful of happy couples, but believe me it's not. I have so many friends who are in happy, long term relationships, and I am so unbelievably happy for them, but they will be the first to agree with me when I say; just like a dog isn't just for Christmas, a relationship isn't just for 14th February.
The roses, the chocolates, the pug of love teddies, and oh my word, all the pink! It makes me feel a bit sick. It genuinely astounds me that you princesses are feeling woeful about this upcoming day. Turn off Bridget Jones, put down the Ben and Jerry's, back away slowly. Doll yourself up, go and have a wine with your fellow single friends. The world is a big place, and if you are considering calling your safety net then I have one word for you: don't. Do not lower your standards just because of this bloody holiday, if you don't want to be with him every day of the year, then don't lead him on because you don't want to be alone on this single day. It is literally twenty four hours. Man the fuck up.
I detest people saying things like "need a spooning buddy" or "I'm so lonely :(" most of the time, but coming up to valentines day it turns my blood to boiling point. You are letting the side down. You are better than a last minute pull, mate, you are better than getting a boyfriend purely so you can have a few chocs to eat. Don't sell yourself short.
This blog post is slowly but surely making me angrier that single women in the twenty first century feel that they need a man to make them feel better about themselves. We are no longer in the 1920s, and even if you spend valentines day led in bed watching catfish reruns, it has got to be a hell of a lot better than sitting with someone you don't even like, eating over priced food and feeling like you have to slow down your wine intake.
Repeat after me; I don't want no scrub, scrub is the kinda guy that's getting no love from me.
I just use it as an excuse to go to the pub lol. I would rather avoid spending treble the price in a restaurant and having to deal with being surrounded by sloppy couples gushing at each other. bleugh! I'd rather be treated like a princess in my own home, without putting on romantic gushing as that just makes you seem like your just pretending to be happy!
ReplyDeleteAmen! X
DeleteIt's a waste of money! Would much rather have a takeaway, cheap bottle of wine and Netflix! No presents, no fuss, just be in each other's company.
ReplyDelete100% agreed, if you get spoilt rotten then that's fine! But it's meant to be a holiday to celebrate love, not to compete on Instagram about who had the better night. X
DeleteAs a strong independent black woman that happens to have a penis, I think valentines day is definitely orientated towards women and their little romantic fantasies ;)
ReplyDeleteDo not get me wrong, it definitely is, and that's fine, but single girls shouldn't feel they need to acquire someone purely for twenty four hours because of the stigma attached! X
DeleteYou champion strong independent women (a good thing and a good message to put out there) but at the same time advocate "dolling yourself up" to help feel good about yourself and getting rid of a boyfriend because you "deserve the princess treatment". Have a think about how those quotes/ideas conflict with your idea of a strong independent woman
ReplyDeleteHi there, I appreciate the comment, although don't understand your argument at all. If I was saying "doll yourself up for someone else" I would understand 100%, but not once do I tell anyone to change themselves for the sake of someone else. Not once. Also, yes I do believe that if your boyfriend doesn't let you know everyday of the year - not the whole "good outweighs the bad" - that you are special to him, and you NEED this holiday to create a cloud of validity in your relationship, then the relationship isn't worth it. It works both ways, people shouldn't need a relationship to feel valid, but they shouldn't need valentines day to make their relationship seem valid. I appreciate your point, but sadly you have missed mine.
DeleteAlso, I shouldn't have to add a disclaimer but I will anyway. Not ALL women want the "princess treatment", and it is different for every person. The princess treatment may range from a good morning text to a holiday to Barbados. It doesn't matter. The point I was making, that everyone else seemed to get, is that if the person you are in a relationship with doesn't make you feel loved/liked/wanted everyday of the year, then I believe, that these people deserve better. You're entitled to your opinion, obviously. But you've taken bits of what I have said and taken it out of context to create an argument that wasn't there. I apologise if you have misunderstood my point, but there is no conflict in my views. I believe that in a relationship, a two way street should be formed of making that person feel like they are special to you, and not just on valentines day. Hence "Just like a dog isn't just for Christmas, a relationship isn't just for valentines day" if you want to continue this debate any more, then please let me know. I'm intrigued to know your views.
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